| There is a profound theory suggesting that the contrast between having and losing—or losing and regaining—magnifies our perception of value. For example, recovering from illness makes us keenly aware of the benefits of health because we have experienced its absence. The same principle applies to material prosperity and relationships. Often, we fail to appreciate what we have until we lose it. Those who have experienced poverty tend to value material prosperity more than those who have always known it. Similarly, those who have endured the loss of a loved one—through separation, divorce, or bereavement—often hold a deeper appreciation for relationships than those who have never faced such loss. Importantly, people who get a second chance after losing something significant often cherish that opportunity more. Psychologists refer to this as contrast theory. I call it the cardinal law of lost-and-found. To be “lost” is to endure hardship—disappointments, failures, or pain caused by personal mistakes, imperfections, or circumstances beyond one’s control. To be “found” is to experience restoration; the experience of regaining the lost treasure through unmerited favour, forgiveness, and gracious love. Remarkably, Jesus Christ and the divine platform also value the lost-and-found more. In Luke 15:7, Jesus explained the law of lost-and-found best as follows: “…there is more joy in heaven over one lost sinner who repents and returns to God than over ninety-nine others who are righteous and haven’t strayed away!” Christ appears to suggest that one lost-and-found soul holds more value to God than ninety-nine others who were never lost. He doubles down on this idea in Luke 15:11-32 with the story of the prodigal son. After squandering his inheritance through reckless living, the prodigal son finds himself destitute and decides to return home. His father sees him from afar and, overcome with joy, runs to embrace him. He calls for a celebration, saying, “My son is here—given up for dead and now alive! Given up for lost and now found!” What is particularly striking is the father’s act of placing a ring on the prodigal son’s finger. In those days, a ring symbolised ownership, authority, identity, and power. It was used to seal documents, functioning as a signature. By giving this ring to his wayward son, the father not only forgives him but fully reinstates him into the family, entrusting him with authority over his entire estate. This raises an intriguing question: why would the father grant such responsibility to a son who had squandered his wealth? Why overlook the elder son, who had remained faithful and diligent? The answer may lie in the prodigal son’s transformation. His experiences of poverty, shame, and desolation led to a profound appreciation for his family, wealth, and privileges—things he had once taken for granted. Hardship had humbled him, instilled wisdom, and deepened his understanding of responsibility in ways the elder brother, who had never faced such adversity, might lack. Through forgiveness, the prodigal son gained humility, empathy, gratitude, and a renewed sense of belonging—virtues essential for anyone entrusted with the stewardship of a family’s fortune. This story illustrates a powerful truth: great achievements often emerge from hardship. Adversity acts as a catalyst for growth, forcing individuals to confront their limitations and rely on God’s grace. Scientific evidence even supports the idea that adversity can foster spiritual growth, creating conditions that heighten one’s awareness of divine presence. God’s grace, in turn, nurtures virtues, values, and character, which form the foundation for a fulfilling life. It is crucial, however, to distinguish between meaningful suffering and unnecessary pain. The concept of lost-and-found does not glorify sin or suffering; it emphasises that growth can arise from specific forms of hardship—those caused by ignorance, human error, or circumstances beyond one’s control. It does not imply that all suffering is necessary or justified. We all must strive for perfection, avoid sin and unhealthy behaviour and alleviate suffering. However, adversity, though painful, can be essential for developing the wisdom, strength, and resilience needed for success. Greatness is a process shaped by how far we’ve come and what we’ve endured. Achieving success is only part of the journey; sustaining it requires wisdom and character. This is why those who inherit wealth or win the lottery often struggle with lasting satisfaction—they haven’t earned the wisdom to maintain their fortune. Do you feel lost? Take heart and hold on to God’s grace. Adversity is not just an obstacle but a tool that equips us to achieve and appreciate greatness. It leads to fulfilment, purpose, and joy. Although the road may be tough, it is the only path to long-lasting success. Each challenge you face strengthens and refines you, shaping you into a wiser, more resilient person. Keep going, for your struggles are the chisels sculpting your greatness. The destination, a life of fulfilment and triumph, is worth the journey. May the love of God and His peace, which surpass all human understanding, fill your heart now and always. |
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